During yesterday’s discussion series at the Hathaway Brown Aspire Program, Kaye Ranke asked a small group of 8th grade girls, “What part of the term self-respect is more important? Self? […]
During yesterday’s discussion series at the Hathaway Brown Aspire Program, Kaye Ranke asked a small group of 8th grade girls, “What part of the term self-respect is more important? Self? Or respect?” The question drew out a lively debate with many responses. EYEJ presents three key recommendations for increasing self-respect while maintaining positive relationships with others.
1. Start with active listening.
There is a major difference between simply hearing what someone has to say and truly listening. Listening requires intense focus and involves observation of non-verbal behavior, an acknowledgment of someone else’s perspective, and respecting the speaker by allowing them to make their point.
Through the use of active listening, you demonstrate to others that you care about what they have to say. Engaging in active listening can also challenge you to grow as a person. Even if the person you are speaking with does not pick up on your active listening, you can take pride in making the choice to respect someone else’s voice, ideas, and perspective.
2. Consider others’ views while maintaining your unique identity.
Part of increasing self-respect can stem from recognizing the experiences of parents, friends, teachers, and other key figures in your life. People who have your best interests in mind can offer advice on various challenges. However, it is important to maintain ownership over your choices. To do this, take the ideas of people you trust into consideration while making a big decision, but arrive at your own conclusion. This tactic can boost your self-respect and confidence while also showing respect to your network of friends, family, and colleagues.
It is important to live life with a purpose and become the best version of yourself you can be. Celebrate your strengths and successes, but also work to figure out what areas of your life could be improved. Want to learn how to cook? Look for easy recipes online. Need to get organized? Buy a planner and jot down your weekly schedule. Making these small changes can have you feeling better about yourself very quickly!
What are some ways you work to increase your self-respect? Let us know in the comments!